Motivate him in whatever way you think will make him want to participate in your engagement session. If there’s something he’s wanted you to do that you haven’t done, now is the time to play that card. For example, if you don’t like watching football and he’s been asking you to go to a game with him, bribe him with that (or whatever works for your man). For Chris, it’s ice cream!
In the time leading up to the session, explain to him what’s going to happen that day. He’s probably never done anything like this before and doesn’t know what to expect so he can prepare for your engagement session. He’s not on Pinterest all the time looking up cute engagement photos or anything like that, so he may not know anything about this kind of session or even understand what it’s for. Tell him that the photographer is going to have you two hold hands, cuddle, hug and kiss. Explain the session to him prior so it’s not overwhelming to him and he won’t feel awkward as it’s happening so he’s prepared for the engagement session.
Be extra lovey with him before the session to prepare for the engagement session. Picture day is super stressful, so it’s easy to get into a fight beforehand. Make a point to be more loving and patient. This will make the photos better because you’re not upset with each other due to something that happened that morning due to stress. You’ll be able to relax and be more affectionate during the session.
Explain the importance of the photos to him. Let him know, “I know this stressful and you don’t want to do it, but I want tomorrow to be all about us. In 50 years I want to look back on these photos. These are important to me.” This way he doesn’t think it’s just something that is on his checklist that he has to do before the wedding, but that they are important to you. He loves you; he’ll do it for you.
Incorporate his ideas in the session. Ask him if he has any ideas for the session. If he has something he wants to do, then he will be more excited about them because he will feel involved and like it’s about him too, not just all about you. Think about what makes you guys unique as a couple and incorporate those ideas into the session, whether it be a location, props, clothing, etc.
Over the last few years we have received complaints from brides whom we’ve never met before. They would approach us with something like “OMG I booked a photographer and after our engagement session I realized we’re not a good fit for each other. But now I am stuck in a contract with them.” We’ve always felt so bad for these sweet brides because photography is not something you want to be unhappy with on your wedding day!
That’s when we decided to create a system that allows us to work together before having to make that big decision of booking your photographer.
If you’d love to have the opportunity to have a free engagement session and try out a potential wedding photographer at the same time, reach out and we will be in touch!❤️
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